Only when can a believer remarry ? 

WHEN CAN REMARRIAGE OF A BELIEVER IN CHRIST TAKE PLACE ?

Marriage of born again children of God, that God has put together , can only be separated for remarriage through death which is in two perspective as we examine scripturally:

1) Physical death of any of the partners. 

2) Spiritual death. When one of the believing partner is in the situation of Sin unto death, and should not be prayed for (1st John 5:16). 

Biblically it is very clear that continues deliberate  sinning leads to  spiritual death, which leads to physical death that can be immediate or later . There   is no sin that God cannot forgive, but  if  I have abandon or divorce my believing partner  to  go and  consciously  be  engaged in perpetual adultery after  spiritual  knowledge  of  the  “truth”,   then   I am   committing a   sin unto   death, as the bible says:   

- ‘‘ If any one sees his brother committing what is not a mortal sin, he will ask, and God will give him life for those whose sin is not mortal. There is sin which is mortal,  I do not say    that one is  to pray for that. ’’ 1st Jean 5:16-17.  

- “Therefore, I tell   you, every sin and blasphemy against   the spirit   will be forgiven men, but the blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven” Matthew 12:32   

-‘‘ For it is impossible to restore again to repentance those who have once been enlightened , who have once tested the heavenly gift, and have become partakers of the Holy Spirit , and have tested the goodness of the word of God and the power of the age to come, if they then commit apostasy, since they crucify the son of God on their own account and hold Him up to contempt.’’ Hebrew 6:4-7

- ‘‘…whereas she who is self-indulgent is dead even while she lives’’ 1st Timothy 5:6-7

From a clear understanding of these texts, why  then will the believing partner not remarry, if  the partner who left is in the above situation?  Yes!  The other can remarry only in the Lord, since the ‘‘ unbelieving partner’’ is already spiritually separated from God, which implies spiritual death and consequently leading to physical death  later.

In the Old Testament adulterers were killed, which was an automatic liberation of the other partner to remarry.   In the New Testament there is room for forgiveness; but if it becomes sin unto death, which means the other is already   dead   even though physically alive,  and forbidden not to be prayed for,  the other is free to remarry.   Even in the permissive will of God, allowing Moses to permit divorce because of the hardness of the hearts, He however made it clear that all sexual acts of a divorce woman were defilement.   The Bible says:

« If she goes and becomes another man’s wife, and the latter husband  dislikes her and writes her a bill  of   divorce and puts it in her hand sends her out of  his house, or if  the latter husband dies, who took  her to be his wife, then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to  be his wife,  after she had been defiled; for that is an abomination before the Lord”  Deut 24: 2-3.     

So even though God tolerated it, it all the same remains defilement. It remains the same today, unless there is authentic confession and repentance. Therefore, if such has  committed a sin unto death, and is living in perpetual adultery, then equally this command of the Lord becomes effective: “ And I say to you; whoever divorces  his wife except for unchastity,  and marries another, commits adultery” Matthew 19:9.

By the normal understanding of this text, a man could divorce his wife and remarry if  she committed adultery.  But we had earlier mentioned that, a man must examined to see that he himself doesn’t commit adultery, and has forgiven her 490times. An   equally that the other is not still willing to stay with him.

But if this one(man or woman), who has known the lord and turned back to the world, is the one who has abandoned the believing partner and sought for divorce to be living in perpetual adultery,  and  God put he/she on the bench of  SIN UNTO DEATH, I don’t see how we can still be yoking the life child of God to a corpse on the basis that the other is still physically alive. There is no scriptural basis on which this can be spiritually correct, if we are really led by the Holy Spirit to apply the written word(Logos).

If it was that physical death comes first to spiritual death then one will understand. This  Meaning therefore that, until a person first die physically, before he becomes spiritually death separated from God.

If it was so, then it will mean that if a man commit a sin unto death, he must first physically die, before spiritual death can follow.  In this case, yes, no remarrying for a person whose partner has committed a sin unto death.

But if it  is the reverse, that spiritual death comes first to physical death, then believe me by the spirit of the Lord that we will be sinning-yoking God’s life child, to a  living corpse he has declared as such, and command us not to pray for. At the mere human level, can you as a life person get into a coven and lie inside with a corpse? I don’t see who on earth can do such a thing, even a made mad man will not.

Equally, to be yoking God’s life Child through a moral conception of the scriptures, unto a corpse that God has commanded not to be prayed for, is tempting that one  to pray with the wish of seeing his spiritually death partner, return to the Lord for them to be together again. We  know how strong the desires of this mortal body are!

I love that, we should take time before each case differently before the Lord, and handle it with him(sorting out cases of sin unto death), so as not to ignorantly be sinning before God in applying the written letters without the leadership of the Holy Spirit, and condemning God’s life children to corpses. Therefore, we must be careful not to  apply the written letter without the spirit which consequently brings death as the bible says:  ”It is he who made us capable of serving the new covenant which consists not of a written Law but the spirit. The written La brings death, but the spirit gives life” 2nd Corinthian 3:5-6.

Therefore, the following questions must ponder us:

If he or she is already death and eternally  separated from the Lord, and so his biology existence makes no difference before the Lord, how possible therefore can he still be  yoked to the spiritually living partner  still in the  Lord? If death is what nullifies a marriage, and this one is spiritually death, which is what is essential before God and not the biological physical death, is his marriage alliance with the other not automatically nullified? And if it is, why then can the partner living in Christ not free to remarry?

How can  God yoke his  life child to that which he has declared   a corpse ? Impossible! Can you withstand the smell of a corpse ? To then think that God can take his living child and yoke to a corpse, is to be mistaken indeed! When God says death, he means death and we see that, that which is fundamental  before Him is spiritual  death and not really physical death because we all must physically die.

Therefore, this is how this text must be briefly understood : 

“ A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord” 1 Cor 7:39-40. 

In the perfect will of God, as a man leaves his parents  to join his wife to  be one, they shall be so until death(Genesis 2:24). God hates divorce(Malachi 2:13-16). But since man has fallen and the power of sins is upon him and this role is tempered upon :

  1) If the woman or man leaves his Christian wife, he or she shall remain so without getting married, else reconciled for they are all of the same body.

  2) If  one of them is guilty of sexual immorality then the other is free to divorce, but certainly if only he or she has fulfilled the Law of forgiveness, but the other has decided not to change.  He qualifies then to divorce and remarry because in the old Testament, it's  so, and the husband wasn’t allowed to marry her again if  she did come back. So, is same word of God and spirit of God continuing. 

3) If the  unbelieving or believing partner seeks for divorce and leaves,  and goes and is living in perpetual immorality  either married or single, and the believing seeks the  Rhema of the Lord that, that one has committed a sin unto death and so can’t be prayed for and  that he or she is not bound and can remarry, then he goes ahead and remarry. The fundamental question here is not who caused the other to leave (egoism, indifference, quarrelling , adultery  et cetera), but that of  perpetual   adultery, by the one who left or divorced. The believing partner who  is  innocent of  divorce, is free from guilt(not bound), and therefore can remarry.

To hear the Rhema of God is very, very important else Letters will kill especially on this topic as is doing with many already( Spirit vivifies and letters kills...2nd Corinth 3:4-6). Must read this Book 

There are many honest children of God that interpretations of the letters are killing  on this subject. They have been tied by their leaders under the Law of the letters in wrong interpretation of this text without the Holy Spirit and are suffering under the Laws of works sinning in their thoughts and even actions. Since according to the Law of the spirit  they might have been set free and can remarry but they are not. According to God they are supposed to remarry but because, they burn in passion under the law of works that will lead them to death.

So teachers of the word must be very, very careful as James 3:1, says because by thinking that they are doing the right thing may instead lead souls to hell. We must understand that since man sinned, marriage became  purely carnal and ends here. That is why you could see that God tolerated polygamy in the Old Testament, and today, people getting married  after fornication as they repent which in God's original plan wasn't supposed to be so. Normally in strictly God's perfect will, every one must have gone  back to get married to the first person you had sex with, because that is the real sense of the word marriage according to God.

I read many other  inspirations of  inspired Teachers of the word like Watch man Nee, Prince Derick whose  second wife was a divorcee under the 2nd point.  God was the one who connected the two together for remarriage. I read his book on how it all happened and it went in light with what the Rhema of the Lord had ministered to me.

So, if you are a leader of the sheep, and are keeping sheep bound under the Law of works for hell on this matter, set them free.

Conclusion

Therefore, as  conclusion we are saying that, the most important thing is that, the believing partner must not be the one engaging the Divorce as the  Bible says:

‘ ‘‘To the   rest I say not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she conceits to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband   who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him, for the unbelieving husband is   made acceptable to God by being united to his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made acceptable to God by being united to her  Christian husband .If  this was not so, their children would be like pagan children, but as   it    is, they are acceptable to God. However if   the one   who is not a believer wishes to leave the Christian partner, whether husband or wife, is not bound,   for God   has called us to   peace. Wife how do you know whether   you   will save your husband? Husband   how do you know whether your will save   you    wife?  1st Corinthians 7: 12 – 16..

Does  ‘‘is not  bound’’ in this case imply  the other   partner  is   free to  remarry  ?  The Bible says :

• ‘‘ A   married   woman  is   bound   by law to her husband as long as he lives, but if her husband dies she is discharged from the law concerning the Husband. Accordingly she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies she is free from that Law; and if   she marries another man she is not   an   adulteress » (Romans 7: 2 - 3).

• “A  wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. If  the husband dies she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the lord.  But in my judgement she is happier if she remains as she is »(I Corinthians 7: 39 - 40). The above texts indicates that only death can bring an end to a marriage for  re-marriage.

The fundamental thing is therefore that, the believer shouldn't be the one to initiate the divorce, if the adultery has  repented and  abandon the evil, and want to stay.  If he initiates the divorce, he cannot remarry. At this level, we can say with divine conviction that any re-marriage of already united partners is only   authorized   in case of  the death ( spiritual or  physical) of one of them else we will  be committing adultery.  Anything  apart from   this is from the   Devil .

Therefore, so long as we are children of God and  our partner is still alive, even if we are not living together, whether in a state of   madness, sickness, imprisonment, poverty , divorced; and still a member of  the body of  Christ(spiritually alive)  as our self, not on the bench of sin unto death,   we  have no right to remarry.

 Being all spiritually alive in the body of Christ, only physical death can separate us. Paul was writing his letter to children of God spiritually alive in Christ, and yoked together by marriage in the Lord. That is why he goes further to say” ...but if her husband  dies, she is free to be married to any man she wishes, but only if he is a Christian”  1st Corinthians 7:39.

Yes, two believers in Christ cannot divorce and remarry . This is because  the bible says: “.... You are a  husband of blood to me » (Exodus 4: 24 - 26). How   can a husband of   blood to a wife or vice versa be separated? All these boil down to this   solemn   will of   God:

« You ask   why   he no longer accepts them.  It is because he knows you have broken your promise to the wife you married when you were young. She was your partner and you have broken your promise to her, although you promised before God that you would be   faithful to her. Didn’t God make you one body and spirit with her?   What was   his purpose in   this?  It was that you should have children who are truly God’s people." So make sure that none of   you   break his   promise   to his wife. ‘‘I hate   divorce’’ says the Lord God   of   Israel ‘‘I hate it   when    one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife’’. Make   sure   that you   do   not   break   your   promise   to be   faithful to your wife »   Malachi 2: 15-16.

We can sum up here with these words of Apostle Paul.

-« Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God?   Do not be deceived; neither, nor adulterers, nor sexual perverts will inherit   the   kingdom   of    God » (I Corinthians 6: 9 - 11).

WHY DOES GOD PERMIT DIVORCE FOR BELIEVERS   IN THE CASE OF ADULTERY?

Remember that scriptures that says:

"  Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never!  Or do you not know that he who is joined  to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.”  But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him" 1 Corinth 6:15-17

 What does it mean here? That a believer's body is the Temple of God where he dwells through the holy Spirit, right? 

👉 If he takes his body and go and sleeps with another out of marriage he has prostituted the body and so becomes one -body -Soul-Spirit as a  prostitute with the one he went and prostituted the body with right? 

👉 So if you are a married  believer , and you go commit adultery, you become ONE  as a prostitute- body -soul-spirit  with the other person you went and prostituted with.  Since there are demons that yoked you together, you have gone and carry :

SPIRITUALLY:

You carry transmissible infections through Saliva, blood, sweet etc.. So when you come back home, and sex with your husband or wife,  he or she becomes one too, through you as a prostitute , with that person you went and slept with,  in  all these Spiritual and physical  inherited evil consequences. 

👉 If PHYSICALLY inherited infections in our bodies from our wife or husband who went out and carry through adultery can kill us : HIV, etc..., Then what worse of   the SPIRITUALLY inherited ones ? So our salvation is in danger with an adulterous wife or husband, and why the Lord calls for divorce. 

 👉If a  partner  stumble into it and sincerely repent,  and abandon it, then deliverance can take place,  with the demons chased away, soul ties broken, and every transmitted thing destroyed.  Laboratory tests done to check for infections and treatment effected. In this case, the believer continue with his wife or husband in forgiveness.   But if the partner remains in  adultery and refuse to come out,  and you continue together, you may lose your salvation, and that is why the Lord calls for divorce of believers in the case of adultery. 

👉Verse, 18 goes to tell us: "  Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;  you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies" 1 Corinth 6:18-20

So, any other SIN is out of your body, and so can't affect your partner's salvation if you commit,  but adultery can.  So only that which  is in the body  can affect your partners salvation, which is sex- adultery, and  you can divorce if your partner persist in it. So if you are a believer, and your partner is living in perpetual adultery, seek for the Rhema of God,  and if says: Divorce, you divorce.  

Don't,  say l will stay and we will be sexing us, and   God knows that he or she is the one committing it and not me. You will be in danger as you will be contaminated and end up perishing with him or her. Because even from the biological physical aspect of it, you need to stop every sexual act  with him or her first, for health safety .  Then what more of the spiritual safety? Click:  Must read this Book 👇