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✍️The Lord God says: "Can a man carry fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being burned? So is he who commit SEXUAL IMMORALITY, no one who does this will go unpunished" Proverb 6:27-29. 

👉Yes, it is true that all sins are sins because there is no little sin before God. But which is that one that He points his finger at and says be careful? To this the bible says: “…Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body,..” 1 Corinthians 6:18. From this text, we see that it is sexual immorality.

👉 Therefore other sins like: Murder, stealing etc which we may normally consider to be the worse sins, are out of the body. So sex can never be enjoyable in immorality but instead it will lead to death: “….SEXUAL IMMORALITY is the short cut to death” Proverb 7:27. Few seconds of illegal sexual pleasure will cost your life. 

1) Why is this so?

 ✍️This is because divine sex got into God’s deep mysteries of creation from the beginning even before the fall of man, and was to be everlasting. Whereas illegal sex and other sins only came in after the fall of man. After God had taken durst and created the physical house(biological body) in which the spirit of man was to dwell in, he then intended that it was through sexual fusion of the man and his wife that subsequent biological bodies will be produced for Him to fit in the spirit (Zach 12:1-2). 

👉He had taken a rib out of the man to make the woman, and intended that during marriage, he will rejoined them through sex back into one. Then as one, the fusion of the male sperms and female eggs(ovum) will produce the biological body for him to then put the spirit of man which is in His image, since God is spirit(Genesis 1:26). To this the bible says plainly :

 “ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh" Gen 2:24 

2) Why did God put the hymen in the female’s genital organ?

 👉Biologically, it has no function but spiritual. We know that every life alliance is sealed with blood. In one of my books, this is well illustrated. During the first contact of married virgins, as the verge(penis) of the man goes through the hymen into the woman tearing it, he reabsorb into himself that his rib that was taken out to create the woman. 

👉THE BLOOD THAT FLOWS FROM THE TEARING OF THE WOMAN’S HYMEN, SEALS THEIR MARRIAGE COVENANT FOR LIFE, until death separates them. In the Bible, we all know that, the divine principle of life alliance is blood. In the Old Testament, the blood of animals engaged our life alliance with God, whereas in the New Testament, the animal’s blood is replaced by the blood of Jesus Christ. 

👉So according to the thoughts of God, the husband is the supposed one to go into the wife, re-absorbing the rib that was taken out, back into its original place, for the two to become one. So, they return spiritually to be one, irrespective of the fact that, they may be two different morphological human beings. It is in this state that, they can enjoy sex, multiply and fill the earth as God commanded. 

👉The two becoming one(Genesis 2:24) is deeply spiritual, meaning that they will eventually be realized into one in thoughts, words and actions and moving in the same direction. Therefore becoming one here doesn’t just simply imply two different physical human beings(female and male), staying under the same roof and looking in different directions and producing children. 

It rejoices God’s heart, when we obey his marriage norms. There is nothing that God created in man that hasn’t got a role to play before him. 

3) The pleasure of sex outside marriage is the pleasure of death!

 Sex therefore, besides being a physical act, is a deep spiritual yoking of two entities into one that greatly affects the two in a special way. To this, the bible says:👇

 “ You know that your bodies are parts of the body of Christ. Shall I take a part of Christ’s body and make it part of the body of a prostitute? Impossible! Or perhaps you don’t know that the man who joins his body to a prostitute becomes physically one with her? The scripture says quite plainly, “The two will become one body”. 1st Corinthians 6:15-17. 

👉A prostitute in this text doesn’t mean someone who sales his body for MONEY, but prostituting yourself in sex with another person other than your married partner, since God intended sex only in marriage. Are you a prostitute? 

✍️Through just ONE act of illegal sex, we will not only carry from the others, thousands of curses that immediately becomes active in our life to later flow unto our descendants 3rd to the 4th generation, but equally open doors to the influence of thousands of demons in our life. 

👉For example partner A has illegal sex with partner B, who had illegal sex with partner C, gets connected to the curses and equally opens to the demons active in the life of partner C, and so on. So, partner A who only yoked himself with partner B in illegal sex, automatically yoked himself to the other sexual partners of partner B, and so forth. Just a few seconds of sexual pleasure outside marriage may cost us all our life. We will live to regret it all our life. 

👉It is very unfortunate that many of us lose our virginity in sexual immorality and sealing ourselves with others leading to far reaching consequences like: Difficulties to get married, abortions, venereal diseases, HIV, Hepatitis, divorce, emotional stress, etc . 

✍️A whole generation of people and a nation can easily be yoked and destroyed by Satan through illegal sex. And since sex deals with the stimulation of the body for some sensational excitement, Satan easily begins sowing the seeds of sexual excitement at very young tender age. 

👉And if we or our parents had been given to sexual immorality before marriage or in marriage, our children already bound by our curse of sexual immorality, will have their obedience to demons of sexual immorality, easily flow without any problem. In the Old alliance, anyone who was discovered to have had sex before marriage was stoned to death as we can read:👇
“Suppose a man marries a girl and later he decides he doesn’t want her. So he makes up false charges against her, accusing her of not being a virgin when they got married.“ If this happens, the girl’s parents are to take the blood-stained wedding sheet that proves the girl was a virgin, and they are to show it in court to the town leaders. 

The girl’s father will say to them, I gave my daughter to this man in marriage, and now he doesn’t want her. He has made false charges against her, saying that she was not a virgin when he married her. 

But here is the proof that my daughter was a virgin ; look at the bloodstains on the wedding sheet! Then the town leaders are to take the husband and beat him. They are also to fine him a hundred piece of silver and give the money to the girl’s father, because the man has brought disgrace on an Israelite girl. Moreover she will continue to be his wife, and he can never divorce her as long as he lives. 

“But if the charges are true and there is no proof that the girl was a virgin, then they are to take her out to the entrance of her father’s house, where the men of her city are to STONE HER TO DEATH. She has done a shameful thing among our people by having intercourse before she was married, while she was still living in her father’s house. IN THIS WAY YOU WILL GET RID OF THIS EVIL” Deuteronomy 22:13-21.(Good News). 

👉Today, stoning to death as was in the old testament no longer exist, but we are spiritually death, unless we repent, and physical death can then follow in any manner(accidents, diseases etc..), at any moment and we spend eternity in hell. 

Therefore, Sex outside marriage is a terrible abomination before God because it is something that deals with a life alliance. One more illegal sex may seal your death. 

4) Sexual immorality leading to Hell is committed in the following ways: 

1- I go to bed with someone other than my officially married partner.

2- I caress someone in the way to cause sexual satisfaction. 

3- I masturbate myself. Equally perversions like anal sex, liking, Lesbianism, Homosexuality etc 

4- I secretly kiss someone whether on the hand, jaw or mouth, with sexual desires. 

5- I secretly embrace someone as to cause sexual stimuli.

6- I caress any part of a person’s body: hand, face, back, with pleasure even if it is in the public.

7- I write a secret love letter to someone which I want to be kept secret. 8- I call someone with a secret pet name that I hide its existence to whoever proving that the relationship is suspicious. 

9- I pay visit to someone that I will not want any person to know.10- I watch immoral films. 

11- I read immoral books. 

12- I love phonographic pictures. 

13- I lustfully look at the picture of a woman or man with some exposed parts of the body. 

14- I deliberately look at some one's private part, when that person is not noticing or is dressing. 

15- I have an immoral thought towards someone.

16- I imagine myself in sexual relation with someone. 

17- I advance an immoral word or an immoral suggestion towards others. 

18- I sing immoral songs.

19- I listen with pleasure to immoral songs.

20- I always love the company of the opposite sex than those of my own sex group with sex desires 

21- Having sex with what we called " Father or mother of my child(ren). 

👉If any one of us is doing any of these, then we are guilty of sexual immorality before God. Unless we repent now, we are sure candidates for hell. To this the bible says: 

 “…..fornicators, adulterers, liars….their lot shall be in the lake that burns with fire and sulphur, which is the second death” Revelation 21:8. Fornication is sex between the un-married . While Adultery is any married person having sex with another person other than the married partner. 

5) The ills of erotic attire in provoking sexual Immorality! 

👉If you are a child of God whose ATTIRE IS EROTIC AND CAUSING PEOPLE TO LUST FOR YOU IN THEIR HEARTS, then you are in trouble with God. The bible says:

 “You have heard that it was said’ Do not commit adultery.’ But now I say to you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” Matthew 6:27-29. 

👉Therefore, let someone not look at you lustfully and commit the sin of fornication or adultery because you caused it by your erotic attire. God will punish the one who provoked the lusting, and the one who lust. For instance, God who made the human biological body says: 

-“And you shall not go up by steps to my alter, that your nakedness be not exposed on it” Exodus 20:26, 28:43. 

-“And thou shall make them linen breeches to cover their nakedness; from the loins even unto the thighs they shall reach…that they not bear iniquity, and die” Exodus 28:42-43 KJV. 

👉These texts gives us an idea of the importance that God attaches to the sacredness of the human body that must not be carelessly exposed to the public. Is the attire we put on, an erotic body exhibition in the name of Christian modernity? If we dress in a way that causes someone to lust for us in his heart for sexual immorality, then we equally will perish with him. The Lord says: 

“Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be for him to have a great millstone fastened round his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea. Woe to the world for temptations to sin! For it is necessary that temptation come, but woe to the man by whom the temptation comes (Matthew 18:6). 

👉It is not for nothing that Satan is producing all the sexual stimulating dresses that we see especially our women put on: 

• Large V-necks dresses and stiff breast wears that pushes the breast from down upwards as to swell them out like balloons to attract attention. 

• Short miniskirts exposing labs.

• Tight fitting trousers as to expose buttocks and the feminine morphology etc... 

👉 When the women are putting on this erotic attire, they say it plainly “I want to look sexy”(That is wanting to look appetizing for the devil to use and provoke sexual lust). Look at all the advertisements around us! Women are often used, with some exposed parts of their bodies. 

👉Listen woman, the men are easily captivated and aroused by the physical mapping of a woman’s form. I’m a man and therefore honest in what I’m saying. There is no normal single man on planet earth, who will dispute this truth. I think it is out of God’s knowledge of his fallen creatures that he especially pointed to the attire of women saying: 

“ I also want the women to be modest and sensible about their clothes and to dress properly; not with fancy hair styles or with gold ornaments or pearls or expensive dresses, but with good deeds, as is proper for women who claim to be religious” 1st Timothy 2:9-10, 1 Peter 3:3-5.

 👉To be a believer in Christ and will want to ignore this command, and continue to dress looking “sexy” as we were in the world, is mocking God. And since God is not mocked, such can’t go unpunished for causing others to lust for them in their hearts.

👉 Yes, for a born again child of God to still be wanting to look “sexy” as she was in the world is an abomination before God. We must therefore be careful not to send others to hell through our erotic attire because our own life equally will not be spared. 

6) The most precious gift for your mate on your wedding day should be your virginity!

👉 Sex is enjoyable only in marriage between couples. Sometimes ago, I counseled two fiancés who were both virgins. I was so moved and praised God. They are enjoying marital sex, and are now on their 3rd child; and I believe they will teach their children into their inheritance of sexual purity until marriage. 

👉Where are those men who promised you marriage as to have sex? They got you cheap and one after another they came and sang the same song and left. Can’t you learn a lesson? Look at how you are rapidly depreciating! From this books of songs, we conclude that, marriage and sex is an issue of great esteem before God, that is highly honored: 

“ I have ENTERED my garden (entering his wife in their first sexual contact), my sweetheart, my bride, I am gathering my spices and myrrh; I am eating my HONEY and HONEYCOMB; I am drinking my WINE and MILK. Eat, lovers, and drink until you are drunk with Love » Songs of songs 5:1. Also Read song of songs 3:1-3, 8:5-7. 

👉 So why hurry to do such wickedness and sin before God by indulging in pre-marital sex, while you have all your time to enjoy it in marriage under God’s honoring? Even dogs do sex carelessly! So, how are you different from a dog? What else can you be proud of if not the purity of your body? You just share it out here and there like a dirty dog and call yourself a “Christian” who goes to church or whatever! Repent or perish!! 

👉It is true that we are pitied through the blood of Christ as we whole heartedly turn to him in repentance. The sealing of our body in illegal sex with others is nullified as we become new borne in Christ, but often we suffer the consequences.

 👉Therefore, to suite in God’s original thoughts, rather than going for illegal sex because we will later repent and be forgiven, let’s keep our VIRGINITY until marriage. No sex even in fiancé ship. 

👉Do you want to surrender your life to Christ who will help you preserve your virginity till marriage? Are you a slave of sexual immorality already suffering or still to suffer from its consequences and want the Lord to help you out? With sincerity, pray this prayer below and feel free to contact us for further assistance if need be: 

👉Lord Jesus, I have sinned against you in my thoughts, words and action. I deserve to perish eternally in the lake of fire, as your just punishment for my sin. You however, died on the cross so that I may not perish but have eternal life.

👉 I repent of my sins and renounce all my sinful ways and sinful practices. I give up all such practices, including what brought me gain and pleasure. 

Wash me in your precious blood and receive me as your child. Come into my heart now and be my savior and Lord. 

Fill me now to overflow with the Holy Spirit, and let His fruit and his gifts be manifested in my life beginning from this moment.  Thank you Lord. 

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